The other day I took time away from everything to come back to center and find the answers to some very serious dilemmas in my life that have been plaguing me. I called it my soul retreat, as it was time I had set aside to get back in touch with my soul.
My biggest takeaways from this experience were to BREATHE and LOOK AROUND—as in, take advantage of every free moment in my life to just do NOTHING. You can read more about that in part 1.
Before I left for this personal retreat, I had to have a game plan. So I mapped out a course.
The first thing I did was to decide WHAT I would be addressing. I think that was probably the most important part of this whole exercise. If I didn’t know the WHAT, I wouldn’t have been able to find the answers I was seeking. I know that sounds so basic, but sometimes we don’t know what it is that’s bringing us down in our lives. By identifying these problem areas, I am being very clear on what I hope to accomplish.
Next, I chose different places where I would be tackling each issue. For me, there were three things I wanted to address. So I chose three different places I would be traveling to throughout the day. My biggest rule about these places were that they couldn’t be at home. If I stayed home, I wouldn’t be able to relax. So I chose places that spoke to me with each issue, places that would bring me a sense of peace as I tackled each issue.
Third, I armed myself with wisdom. For me, that meant finding scripture that addressed the very issue I was struggling with. For you, it could mean a few inspirational quotes, a poem, a passage from a book…anything that speaks to you, and is about the particular issue you’re facing. I recommend that you find at least three pieces of wisdom for each dilemma you hope to tackle.
Finally, I created a schedule. I don’t mean a timed schedule—there was no way for me to know how long each issue would take. But I mean WHAT I would be doing to address each issue. Here’s what that looked like for me:
- Arrive at destination.
- Be still.
- Read wisdom and meditate on the words.
- Pray/focus on wisdom and the issue at hand.
- Be still, remain open for answers.
- Prayer of gratitude.
Here’s the funny thing about the wisdom I chose before I set out on my journey. When I chose it, I knew that it spoke to me. But I didn’t know how it would speak to me in the moment I would be meditating on it. As I focused on each passage I chose, there were certain words or ideas that would ignite inside of me, almost as if a light bulb went off. The words I chose in the morning ended up holding a brand new meaning as I meditated on them, offering me new insight into the dilemma I was facing.
I ended each session journaling what I had experienced, as well as offering a prayer of gratitude for the answer I had received. Journaling was an important aspect of this process, as it helped me to formulate what I had just experienced, and to ensure I wouldn’t forget. As for gratitude, we should always be grateful when God/the Universe meets us where we are and provides us with a path.
When I was done with my three issues, I came back home. The kids were already home from school, so I said my quick hellos. Then I locked myself in my bedroom for an hour, with a note to not bother me until that hour was up. I did a half hour of yoga, and then I took out my journal for the final time to record my takeaways from the day.
And I’ll repeat those takeaways here: BREATHE and LOOK AROUND.
Before I end, here are a few things you will want to bring with you when preparing for your own soul retreat:
- Kleenex! Tears are cleansing. 🙂
- A journal
- A plan
- What you want to address
- Schedule of events
- Food and water (don’t let thirst or hunger get in your way of connecting with your soul)
- A blanket or chair, or something comfy to sit on
- Inspirational music
- An open mind
If you decide to gift yourself with a soul retreat, I hope you’ll share your experience with me. Not the whole thing—that’s between your soul and God/the Universe. But let me know if it helped you to reach the answers you were seeking.
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I read your part 1 blog yesterday and this part this morning.
I think i\you have written something so significant. I truly hope your Soul Retreat has given you the answers to what you are searching.
I have done this before, but only on the anniversary of my twin’s death or our birthday (which I don’t celebrate anymore).
I’m coming up on the 13th year of when I lost my baby boy to stillbirth just weeks before he was supposed to be born. This doesn’t compare to losing my best friend since birth, as you did, but it was a loss that shook me to my core and changed my views on life forever. In those first years, I was a mess. Sept. 23 would come around, and I wouldn’t even know how to cope. Just a few years ago, I began taking the day off on the anniversary of his death, taking a day of solitude. At first it was about him. But soon, I realized that day was about me. I used that day to reflect on where I was then, and where I was in the moment, and the journey in between. It became a holy day. I no longer practice this as well as I used to (though he is always remembered especially on that day!), as I’ve arrived at peace about his death. But perhaps I need to resurrect that day – not just to honor him, but to honor the way life has shaped out since Sept. 23, 2002. I wish you love in your journey as well, and love in your grief. ❤️
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